Socialization

Socialization is defined as the process through which people learn their culture's basic norms, values, beliefs, and behaviors. In watching the two videos "A Call for Men" and "Killing Us Softly" and then reading the articles and reading chapter six I have come to the conclusion that the way we are raised truly does affect the way we behave outside of the four walls of our home.

In the video "A Call for Men" Tony Porter basically reveals that there is no real definition of a man or how a man should be. He says there's a certain label placed on a man called a man box and in this box includes the things that society says a man should be such as athletic, non emotional, view woman as a sexual object, be a protector, provide and all these other attributes that a man should have. When in reality no one can live up to these outrageous standards. We are who we are and no one is perfect. When little boys are raised they are often taught to be tough and not fear and to not show any emotion because then they are acting like a female. In my life I have never seen my dad cry because he puts on this whole façade of being manly and not having "female traits" when that's superficial because we are all human and we all have feelings and emotions without it we wouldn't be human. In watching this video I have now altered my persona of men and how they ought to be. I see that its ok for a man to cry and not be these labels in this man box. The norms are to teach little boys how to be a "real man" when in actuality parents are teaching their boys to fake it until they make it. It starts from the home and everything else they gain from their friends or from the streets.



We then put labels on young girls that make them feel as if they are just objects for boys to pick up and put down whenever they please. In watching the video "Killing Us Softly" young woman like myself and many others have such a difficult time in living in todays society. We have been dehumanized to be skinny, to have a certain look and to live up to these things that are virtually impossible. As a female when I was younger I was given dolls to play with and was told to take care of them as if they were my child. Growing up with brothers I often use to play video games, play basketball, play fight, play with trucks and be rough but when women in my family saw this they would say Nasia come play inside with your dolls or come help me cook don't be out there acting like a little boy. When in my eyes it was no harm being done but they were teaching me my "role" as a female should be cooking and taking care of the kids. In the video I learned that with all these stereotypes being placed on females we aren't being our natural self. We try to be everything we aren't to prove what? In our natural form we are beautiful who cares what celebrities say or what people do being you is the best beauty there is. Who is killing us softly? Men and media, the two M's that hold so much weight in the world and over females. From a young age girls are taught how to be or who to be in this world and they are expected to do this in order to be a real woman. I believe in the famous quote that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is what YOU say it is. You set the standards not Kim Kardashian or Beyoncé but YOU as an individual, YOU as a woman!

In Chapter 6, I learned that in some way we were all socialized into our society's culture nether we know it or not. Our smiley is he ore foundation for shaping us into the people we are today those same beliefs that were taught are placed on us and we have for our everyday lives. In the chapter it stated that family is the primary agent of early socialization, in both videos "A Call for Men" and "Killing Us Softly" both videos at some point talk about how young boys and girls are taught at young ages about their function and role in society and what they ought to do and what they ought not to do. They are stamped of the expectations of their gender and that they have to live up to these things and not doing so makes them less of a woman or less of a man. In conclusion everything we are today started from the basics which is FAMILY. After we leave the home we are then shaped and pressured by not only our family but our school, media and friends. Everything around us makes us who we are, we take a little piece of each of these agents as we go along in life. 

 

Power

In my reading of chapter 5 I have a new perspective and outlook on power and how it is distributed, who holds the power and the manipulative ways of those with the power. In  my reading I discovered the word power is derived from a Latin word potere which literally is defined as "to be able". Power is considered to be the ability to bring about an intended outcome, even when opposed by others. I was enlightened as to how much power can affect our daily lives and how much our society is controlled. Power affects all levels of society no matter how rich you may be or how poor you are. There are many different forms, groups and types of power used to control individuals. Five things that stood out to me in chapter five would have to be power in small groups and organization. The first is reward power, it is the control that makes someone do something because they know in the end they will be rewarded for their behavior such as giving a child an allowance after they have done their chores. Secondly coercive power, which is the ability to punish, for example if a child does terrible in school the parent has the ability to take away their allowance for a few weeks. Thirdly, legitimate power is used to make you feel obligated as if you "ought to obey", children are told they have to be obey their parents because its a norm of what children are expected to do. Fourth, expert power comes from the notion that an individual has more knowledge than others such as parents they usually tend to portray as if they are "know it alls" because they are so much older than their children. Lastly, referent power which is based upon feelings of identification, affection and respect for an individual such as a child looking up to a parent or another adult role model.  In watching the video "The Milgram Experiment" I concluded that in certain settings we allow others to have power over us and we don't even realize it. Such as the example used in the video, when we are at the dentist we allow them to put sharp objects and drills into our mouths in another setting in life we would never allow such a thing to happen to us. We blindly allow people to have power over us and tell us what will and will not happen sometimes without even realizing it. The five main points in the video that stood out to me was that people in authority have more power than we realize and they can torture us and make us suffer from things and they find humor in it. For example what Hitler did to the Jews was cruel and usual but many followed him and did as he told them to do although it wasn't just and right. Another example would be slavery and how much power whites had over blacks at the time and how people stood around and watched blacks be oppressed although subconsciously they knew it wasn't right they just went along with who held the power. Another point that was made in the video was that people that are controlled by those with power need someone to put the blame on so they are not held responsible for the acts they commit. In the video the man that was told to increase the shock voltage was afraid of killing the man so he said he doesn't want the responsibility of this and the voice in the background responded and said "I am responsible for it" after he said that the man may have felt alright with continuing although he still showed a bit of hesitation he still went along with the authority figure. The third point made in the video was that people will go as far as authority tells them to go and sometimes we are just inherently obedient we do what we are told to do without asking why or insisting that someone else do it. The fourth point made in the video was there are times when we naturally obey someone even if they are telling us to do something that is blatantly wrong. We tend to go with whoever is in charge. Lastly a point that stood out to me was that the man continuously shocked the guy because someone told him to do it and when he was asked why he immediately responded and said "he told me to do it". There are many times in our lives where we shift the blame for things we do and we don't necessarily realize it until after the the situation is over. The article "The Five Faces Of Oppression"  revealed that there are many different types of oppression such as violence, exploitation, powerlessness, cultural imperialism and marginalization which can also be referred to as power tactics as stated in chapter 5. The five main points brought out in the article was that violence is used to oppress people because scare tactics are used to intimidate people to do things that they do not want to do a perfect example of this is slavery, blacks were forced to be in the hot sun picking cotton, they were beaten, and abused, raped and sometimes even killed. They knew if they didn't do what they were supposed to do or if they talked back they were going to pay the consequences for their actions. The second point is that exploitation is the act of using something in an unjust and cruel manner, such as child labor. Children were used to do adult jobs in factories as a result many children lost limbs and many lost lives. Thirdly, cultural imperialism is the unequal relationships created in society and making this out to be appropriate. Fourth, marginalization is also considered social exclusion of individuals for example those with disabilities may be excluded from certain jobs or activities. Lastly, powerlessness is used to make societies individuals feel as if they have no say in the world and what happens within their community it beings about low self worth. These three things, "The Milgram Experiment", Chapter 5 "Power" and the article "The Five Faces Of Oppression" are all related because each piece has one main and relevant topic to society which is power. Power can sometimes be abused and mishandled based on the authority figures in charge.I believe that power lies within us and we have the ability to stand up and say no even if we are alone.

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The bible is apart of my material culture. I use the bible as a standard way of living i,e how I treat people, how I love, how I behave etc. I use it as a guide to get through everyday life because I believe that it holds many answers for day to day living. It has a great affect on what I do in my life and how I choose to live. It can also be considered apart of my nonmaterial culture because its symbolic and it represents my religion (Christianity) it is considered sacred and it is supposed to be treated that way as well.

One of my values in my culture is pro-life. I am firmly against abortion. I am pro-life, Christianity taught me that murder is a sin so why take a life away for a mistake that you made? This can also be considered as a belief, I believe it to be true that you committed murder if you have an abortion for the simple fact that life in my opinion begins at conception (when the sperm meets the egg).








 

 I experienced culture shock last summer when I went on vacation to Orlando Florida. Everyone is so friendly and open and willing to have a conversation with you and they don't even know you!! Since I am from New York I was a little taken back by how friendly everyone was and how people took time to actually say "good morning" or "how are you?" In New York it is not a norm to speak to a complete stranger. Everyone moves at such a slow pace there as well and I am so use to being on the go and taking a bus here or calling a cab to go there but in Florida if you don't have a car there is nothing you can do. They don't have a night life either like we do in New York, everything closes so early and I wasn't used to it because in New York its the "city that never sleeps".

Although the whole "black power" movement may be over now this symbol still means a lot to me. My parents and grandparents and great grandparents experienced a lot of criticism for being black. They made me appreciate being black and I absolutely love it and no one can take that away from me. Black power is used to show the strength of the African American people as a whole and I still very much appreciate this symbol.

Sign language is a language that I have started to learn because I recently befriened someone who is partially deaf. Not only can this help me with communicating with her but I realized that there are people in society that are deaf as well. I encountered a woman last summer who needed directions but since she was hard of hearing I had no way of helping her. Learning this is very helpful and I can now communicate with those that are hard of hearing.

Abstinence is a behavior that I personally think should be a way of life it prevents many things unwanted pregnancies, stds's, HIV/AIDS, and single parenting. The knowledge of abstinence is important because it makes you aware of the things that can happen to you. Some say "safe sex is the best sex" but no sex is the way to go.

Being a teenager

Being a teenager isn't the easiest thing in the world to do. I am still only 18 and it's hard but not as hard as it was for me in high school since I'm in college I have been maturing and learning more about myself whereas high school your just going along to get along. Suicide is a real thing and adults don't even try to understand how it is to be a teenager because reviving those memories may be painful or they may have done things they regret. I have had so many friends that tried to commit suicide just because it felt like no one was listening or fitting in was to hard for them. I know how it is to not always be down or fit in with everybody but those four teenagers in the article maybe just needed someone to listen to them. Having nothing to do can also be a cause of finding outlets to do what you want to do. If it seems as if the adults don't care why not go crazy and just do what you want? Teenage years are very critical and adults don't always understand that and they don't try to they'd rather label teens as losers or other derogatory names when in reality all they really needed was something to do or someone to talk to. Its interesting how boredom can suddenly lead to suicide, teenagers have way to much time on their hands and it appears that idle time can lead to experimenting with different things that may not always be the best decision for one's life. Teenagers go crazy with nothing to do because parents try to force them to do what they want them to do. I whole hardheartedly believe that "strict parents make sneaky kids". If you let your kids be themselves and be open with them I believe you won't have much trouble with them. My mom and I have a close relationship I tell her EVERYTHING and she always listens I believe parents should try to consider their kids and what they may be facing. Teenage years are not as easy as they may seem ... 

Alcohol & Drugs ... the cause of violence?

Many would say that the use of drugs and alcohol cause violent behavior but is this something that was proven or thought of? For years many people believed that the cause of violence was alcohol and the use of some type of drug. But no one ever dared to raise questions against such a statement. In reading the article I learned that the use of these things do not cause violent behavior and the phrase 'I didn't know what I was doing, I was drunk" is now used an excuse for irrational behavior such as domestic violence. I myself believed that substance abuse was a reason for violence because growing up that's what I was told and that's what people instilled in me. After reading the article and the textbook I now have a different view on "theories" and the traditions that people have. When I think of abuse or the beating of a woman the first thing that comes to mind is Chris Brown and Rihanna's situation a few years ago. As I think of this situation I don't recall anyone saying that Chris Brown was "under the influence", he beat her for his own personal reasons. Yet no one has questioned whether abusing substances has to do with violence in relationships. In reading the text book I learned that social structure teaches people how to act, therefore we go with the labels that are put on us by society and we never really step back "out of the theories and truly think for ourselves. The cause of the abuse is linked to everything going on in one's life maybe what they saw as a child going up or maybe their belief of having power over a woman or maybe they were abused as a child or maybe just had a rough time growing up. There are many different things that affect people and how they react or treat other people usually these things stem from childhood. In my opinion I believe one can change what was instilled in them as a child and soon be a better person only if they are willing to..

Who Am I?

My name is Nasia ... I'm 18 years old and I'm from Queens. My neighborhood, my family, my friends and my values make up who I am and still becoming as a person. My biggest influences in my life would have to be my mother and my best friend that past away last year. My mom influences me because she is the definition of a woman in my eyes, she motivates me to do better in everything and she pushes me beyond my limit. My best friend is still an influence in my life because he touched my life in many different ways and everyday that I feel like I'm not important it feels as though he's right there encouraging me to continue. He always gave great advice and had a major impact on so many lives. I hope to make an impact on peoples lives just as he did. Some of my goals in life is to obtain my masters degree in social work and later become a social worker in a failing high school. I chose this career path because a lot of people have given up on the youth and I want to be the one to make a difference in someone's life. In my life I've always heard stories of people losing friends and loved ones to gun violence. One of my close friends associates herself with many guys that are in gangs and that live in our neighborhood. It seemed as though every other week she was losing friends to gun violence to the point where it became hard to believe and I became insensitive to her grief until it happened to me. On April 17th 2012 I lost my best friend to gun violence suddenly life seemed so much more real being that the week prior to his death I saw him. I understood the feeling of losing someone so very close I couldn't understand why life was so unfair and why it had to be my friend. I began to question the gun laws in New York and I suddenly became angry because I realized it was not only my friend but so many other young people that were dying to early. I feel personally guns should not even exist because my best friend would still be here but then I realized there are many uses for guns in society. Guns are needed for wars for defense purposes, police need guns to protect society, people keep them in their homes for the safety of their family. Although the loss of my friend hurts me deeply there is a bigger picture to EVERYTHING.